The most humble and wise way to stop conflict.
O ye who believe! Let not some men among you laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): Nor let some women laugh at others: It may be that the (latter) are better than the (former) 049:011
After Haseena’s great struggle in finding her spiritual leader (who sadly passed away shortly after) she was laughed at, taunted with evil words, and ridiculed. She however, managed to hold on to the rope of faith and patience since her Shaykh stood up for her in the most humble and peaceful way, and this and other miraculous events that resulted from Haseena’s supplication is what I would like to share with you. My objective is not just merely to tell stories, but to each lessons and give examples of how the men of Allah (swt) Almighty respond to situations of jealousy which could lead to conflict.
The very first time that Haseena’s Shaykh came to visit her house a few people came with him, a couple of the ladies that followed the Shaykh and his family were very rude and jealous of Haseena . A few hours after they arrived at Haseena’s house one of them approached her and said: “I was made to understand that you pray five times a day, well as far as I can see you have not achieved anything in your life so far!” Haseena was very taken back, but she responded “Really! Well if I have not achieved anything what is a friend of Allah (swt) A doing in my house? Who sent him here? Did he come on his own? No, it was through the great effort of my prayers that Allah (swt) inspired him to be here.” The woman had no response. Some people do not realize the importance of meeting a true and sincere friend of Allah (swt) or the honour of hosting him. It was indeed a great blessing for Haseena and her family to have experienced this great honour which the woman was too blind to see.
As the days progressed another woman went to the Shaykh, and right in front of Haseena she complained that the soap and the toothpaste that Haseena was using was haram (unlawful in the sight of Islam). The Shaykh dealt with the matter in a most respectable way by smiling, he then asked Haseena to put one bar of soap and one tube of toothpaste in his suitcase so he could take it home for his personal use. This sent the message rather quickly to the complainant who remained quiet. A group of close relatives were also oppressing Haseena and her family, so one day the Shaykh asked to meet with them. Upon meeting with the family he said to them in a most humble way “If someone visits your home and your house is very dirty then that person would not want to come back for a second visit.” He then finished this parable by saying that he intended to come back to Haseena’s house as soon as he could possibly do so. He also mentioned that he traveled all over the world, but he never stayed more than two or three days at someone’s house, it was only with Haseena and her family that he stayed at for one week (Alhamdu Lillah). Haseena and her family loved the dust that their Shaykh walked on. This is what they had to say about him: “Our Shaykh came into our lives from out of the blue and lit up our lives, like the moonlight that shines on the darkest nights, and when we were just beginning to enjoy our bright moon light, a dark cloud came and covered up our moonlight, but we received great satisfaction knowing that our moonlight is waiting behind the brilliant stars to receive us into his house of peace and tranquility. The journey of our lives in this world will not end until we are able to fulfill his mission which was to carry out the Zikr of Allah Almighty, and also spreading Islam through such mediums as: spiritual books, etc. May Allah (swt) Almighty grant us the wisdom, knowledge, and the understanding to accomplish these missions of our beloved Shaykh. Ameen.
I wish Haseena and her family all the success in accomplishing the mission of their Shaykh. I do hope for the benefit of our actions that we manage to grasp some very important lessons as to how to act in situations of conflict as Haseena’s Shaykh did. Indeed he was a very God-fearing, humble, and pious man.
O My servants who believe! truly, spacious is My Earth: therefore serve ye Me – (and Me alone)! 029:056
Every soul shall have a taste of death in the end to Us shall ye be brought back. 029:057
But those who believe and work deeds of righteousness – to them shall We give a Home in Heaven,- lofty mansions beneath which flow rivers,- to dwell therein for aye;- an excellent reward for those who do (good)!- 029:058
Those who persevere in patience, and put their trust, in their Lord and Cherisher. 029:059