Mention in the Holy Qur’an:
Those who believed and those who suffered exile and fought (and strove and struggled) in the path of Allah,- they have the hope of the Mercy of Allah. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful. 2:218
Indeed Allah (swt) is Merciful to the people who exercise mercy and patience. To remember the past in ones conduct leads to terrible destruction (if the past had some mistake in it) and this destruction is words of rebuke and ridicule and it might even lead to cruelty and disrespectfulness, and this kind of action would lead to terrible hurt, grief and sorrow, which leads a marriage right to the end of its journey. The Holy Qur’an states:
Kind words and the covering of faults are better than charity followed by injury. Allah is free of all wants, and He is Most-Forbearing. 2:263
One repetition can be injured by a certain label from biting remarks and ridicule it causes terrible injury and damage to the mind physically, spiritually and materially.The best advice on this matter is one party should separate from the other (if they could do so) for a couple of months and talks their problems out in meetings with each other at various places such as a coffee shop, a community center, library, restaurant, the park etc. They shouldn’t discuss anything over the phone it would only bring more problems. Meeting each other in public place to discuss matters would enable both parties to exercise self restraint and patience, and when both parties achieve self restraint and patience then this would lead them to forgiveness and amendment and when this is achieved then pure and sincere love and respect will envelope both parties’ hearts for each other.Both parties should not consider getting back together until they see great changes in each other regardless of how long it may take, for example; how long would it take to build a house back that fell down and broke into pieces due to a storm? Well this is how long one has to bear with patience to put their marriage back on track.
Allah (swt) will grant enormous value of blessings, mercies and guidance to any couple whose marriage is falling apart and they turn to each other and seek each other forgiveness; forgive! Forget and move on, turn also in sincere repentance to Allah (swt), right after making amendment with each other.
If this (the above) be done, Allah (swt) will for sure Bless and strengthen the marriage, and put both parties on the straight and smooth path.
Allah (swt) loves when we can make amendments, just by seeking forgiveness and make amendments, the husband and his wife can achieve success and prosperity :
(1) Sincere repentance: purifies the heart, mind and soul.
(2) Amendment of their conduct purifies their outer life, which helps them to be just in every action, and to each other, which will also lead them to pray sincerely to Allah (swt).
(3) For steadfastness and devotion to Allah (swt) would indeed strengthens their love for each other, and this love would help them to keep away from the assaults of evil.
(4) This brings them as full members into the fellowship of faith.
In a marriage which is blessed with God Almighty Grace, it is His will and it is not from the devil, but the devil would surely come in between a blessed and pure marriage, just to spite Allah (swt) and to betray Allah (swt) sincere servants. So to bear up with patience and prayers, Allah (swt) would shower you with wisdom, and respect would follow you everywhere you go.
But if one deliberately rejects to seek patience and break Allah’s (swt) law and His will, they have put themselves out of the region of Allah’s (swt) Mercy.
Man must seek help from a spiritual teacher to cure the evil surroundings, and try to help restore their marriage under the will of Allah (swt) laws. A teacher can also help one to understand their weak points, where it is easy for the Shaitan to get at them. To know a good teacher is to know one who not only obeys God Almighty, but devoutly obey Him in its privilege of services and obedience, pay heed, bear and forbear with patience and Zikr
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